Viral: on the Internet, when you comment on anything, good or bad, you give it attention, and attention is power. Photo by Tobias Rademacher on Unsplash

Viral: on the Internet, when you comment on anything, good or bad, you give it attention, and attention is power. ~ Jay Wren       Photo by Tobias Rademacher on Unsplash

To be resilient, we must be able to forgive ourselves about our mistakes. Carrying around guilt lowers our self-esteem and confidence. Guilt does not help us correct mistakes. It only makes it more difficult to repair to damaged relationships. So, let go of guilt. If you made a mistake, do not repeat it. If you…… Continue reading Guilt – A Painful Waste of Time

On the other hand, when we are around people with different beliefs, the things that those people say, do, and write, threaten our beliefs. On the surface, we feel anger. Beneath the surface, we feel fear. Threats to our beliefs threaten our self-esteem. We do not feel good when people make us examine our beliefs.…… Continue reading Comfortable Lies

Confirmation bias is the emotional and mental experience that we have based on our beliefs. Unconsciously, we say to ourselves, “This information is true because it reinforces my beliefs.” On the other hand, we will unconsciously say to ourselves, “This information is false because it conflicts with my beliefs.” Different beliefs and ideologies between people…… Continue reading Critical Thinking

Book Excerpt: Best Jobs. Brightest Careers. Updating Your Career Strategy The Benefits of Updating Your Career Strategy: A great career plan is an opportunity map. Your strategy must be flexible. With an updated plan, you will discover new roads for opportunities to succeed. Moreover, students and professionals who have developed and follow their own career…… Continue reading Planning – Updating Your Career Strategy

Our beliefs become hardwired in our minds. They control our thinking and our feelings about what other people say and do. Sometimes friendships fall apart because people develop new beliefs. Other times, people who have been friends realize over time that some of their beliefs have never been the same on some issues. However, if…… Continue reading Similarities

Do we have choices over the way that we feel and think? I believe that we do. Of course, I know that my day can change with the events that I experience. But what about the things that I choose to put in my mind? I can choose things that change how I respond mentally…… Continue reading Choices

Have a purpose for the things you plan to do. Ask yourself questions like these: What do you want to accomplish? Who will benefit from your purpose? Will the purpose reward you for your time, effort, and money? Will your purpose lead you to even greater opportunities? Photo by Guille Álvarez on Unsplash

The fear of the future is often more painful than experiencing the actual event. These fears cripple our mind and imagination. When we are afraid, we can take a deep breath. We can clear our head by getting into action. We can write about our fears, and we can discuss them with friends. Often all…… Continue reading Peace of Mind

Authentic leaders the kind of trust that build creates success within an organization. To be authentic, leaders must have the self-awareness, the self-honesty, and the humility to recognize when their own direction and actions are not in the best interest of the company. They have an open mind to receiving input from the people who…… Continue reading Authentic Leadership

Are you finding new ways to build on your success? Innovation creates changes. Attitudes create changes. Economics creates changes. Mergers, acquisitions, and consolidations create changes. The unknowns will create changes that we can’t imagine. Changes eliminate opportunities for people who are not changing with industry. However, people who stay successful develop new skills and continue…… Continue reading Finding Opportunities

Healthy Reflection: Caring about what other people think about you is normal. But you cannot control what other people think. Worrying about what other people think is a waste of time.   https://www.jaywren.com/worry/     Photo Credit: Photo by Mitchell Orr on Unsplash

Are you holding yourself back? Trust yourself to become a powerful performer. Put together all the pieces to create success. Why shouldn’t you be the powerful performer that you want to become? Just turn the desire to become a power performer into doing the things that enable you to become that power performer. Photo by…… Continue reading Trust Yourself

Knowledgeable, well-trained people are a company’s greatest asset. There is no game without the players. There are no goods or services without the people to create and deliver them. The value of a company increases as the result of the increase in the quality of the performance of its people. New products come from the…… Continue reading The People are the Company’s Greatest Assets

The Challenging Work of Selecting Great People As a recruiter who worked with wonderful human resources people and hiring managers, I know the challenges people face in making great hires.  Over the years, I built a check-off list of traits I considered when making referrals.  Using this list, I increased my placement to referral rate. …… Continue reading Great People

Happiness is easy when everything is going our way. Some people seem happy all the time. How can we be happy even when life is challenging? https://www.jaywren.com/happiness/

Worrying is Not Planning. When I am planning, I am actively engaged in the present moment. I am acting on things that I will do in the future. When I am worrying, I am just sticking pins in my brain with the idea that I am somehow seeking a solution.

If you want to change the subject in your head, do something. Call someone. Read anything: a book, a website, a magazine, whatever changes your thinking. Walk around the block. Turn on the television. Put on some music. Just do something. https://www.jaywren.com/act-to-find-joy-peace-and-success/

Emotional Intelligence: Learning how to manage emotions is part of growing up. However, becoming aware that our feelings are making us dumber is not always easy. How do successful people deal with emotions to make better decisions? https://www.jaywren.com/emotional-intelligence/

Poise is not always automatic. Nearly everyone feels uncertain and lacks poise from time-to-time. How do successful people restore their confidence and maintain their poise in challenging situations? https://www.jaywren.com/poise/

People who see themselves as victims of the past and future lose power over their lives. However, they can step out of the role of the victim when they empower themselves to find gratitude for the present moment. I am grateful for the fact that I have the present moment to be effective at my…… Continue reading Gratitude and the Present Moment

Master the Power of Overcoming Fear The Power of Overcoming Fear: What is fear and why do we need it? When does it help us to survive? When does it turn on us and make us less effective? You can have power over fear. You can enjoy life more, and you can help other people…… Continue reading Master the Power of Overcoming Fear

When you find yourself needing confidence, try smiling. https://www.jaywren.com/smiling

Team Success: What traits engage and build loyalty among team members? This article covers five of the traits I have found among successful organizations. photo credit: Image by Jill Wellington from Pixabay.com  

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Don’t Wait for Success to Be Happy. Happiness doesn’t happen in the future. Nothing exists in the future. Everything can only exist here and now. Becoming happy today gives us energy and brings joy to our lives. Image: @tyybone https://www.jaywren.com/dont-wait-for-success-to-be-happy/

Toxic people create stress that spreads throughout an organization. What are the skills that you can develop not only to survive but to grow around destructive personalities? https://www.jaywren.com/toxic-people/  

Toxic people create stress that spreads throughout an organization. What are the skills that you can develop not only to survive but to grow around destructive personalities?

Happiness and Joy don’t happen in the past or the future. Everything can only exist here and now.

Problems are part of life. Success comes from finding solutions to the problems in your life. Everyone has problems. These problems lead to frustration. Additionally, frustrations make it easy to give up instead of acting on personal and career obstacles. We can become fearful and feel self-pity. Problems can make it easy for us to…… Continue reading Focus on Solutions

Solutions: Viewing the world as a series of problems is discouraging, even scary. https://www.jaywren.com/solutions/

Life’s challenges create pressure. I can’t always eliminate these challenges, but I can reduce the pressure by being smart about how I respond to them. https://www.jaywren.com/stress-reduction/

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Every day there are opportunities to create success from where you are. Look ahead without regret of the past or fear of the future. ~ www.jaywren.com https://www.jaywren.com/become-discovered/

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Successful people have setbacks. Everyone does. But successful people bounce back. They have persistence. They are resilient. ~ www.jaywren.com Do you have the qualities of persistence and resilience? If not, how can you develop them? With persistence, great sports teams come from behind to win the game. Great inventors with persistence work through research and…… Continue reading Persistence and Resilience: Empowered for Success

Self-consciousness is an obstacle to confidence. When I lack confidence, I am focusing on myself. Loss of Confidence When I lack confidence, I am focusing on myself. I have a heightened feeling of uncertainty about my abilities and about my acceptability. Confidence, for me, comes from focusing on my activity and my surroundings: the people…… Continue reading Self-Consciousness

Things we don’t think about don’t scare us. ~ www.jaywren.com Who doesn’t have days when we worry about things going badly? We want things and worry that we will not get them. Or, we have things and worry that we will lose them. Living in fear of what might happen is pointless and painful. The…… Continue reading How to Stop Scaring Ourselves with Our Thinking

Your network is your sphere of influence. ~ www.jaywren.com One powerful way to gain recognition is to have influential people write or talk about you. If you know people in any form of media, consider whether those people might help you gain recognition. A simple technique that I used at one time was to have…… Continue reading Creating Relationships with Influencers