Category: Success

Viral: on the Internet, when you comment on anything, good or bad, you give it attention, and attention is power.

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Viral: on the Internet, when you comment on anything, good or bad, you give it attention, and attention is power. ~ Jay Wren

 

 

 

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To be resilient, we must be able to forgive ourselves about our mistakes. Carrying around guilt lowers our self-esteem and confidence. Guilt does not help us correct mistakes. It only makes it more difficult to repair to damaged relationships.

So, let go of guilt. If you made a mistake, do not repeat it. If you did not make a mistake, just forget about what happened. If the guilt continues to plague you, can write about your feelings.  Then make a list of good things you can do for other people and do those things.

Ironically, guilt is a form of self-consciousness.  People who feel guilty are focusing on how they feel about their mistakes. To remove guilt focus on solutions to help other people.

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On the other hand, when we are around people with different beliefs, the things that those people say, do, and write, threaten our beliefs. On the surface, we feel anger. Beneath the surface, we feel fear. Threats to our beliefs threaten our self-esteem. We do not feel good when people make us examine our beliefs.

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Confirmation bias is the emotional and mental experience that we have based on our beliefs. Unconsciously, we say to ourselves, “This information is true because it reinforces my beliefs.” On the other hand, we will unconsciously say to ourselves, “This information is false because it conflicts with my beliefs.” Different beliefs and ideologies between people and groups of groups create conflict. Shared beliefs create trust and loyalty. Groups of people with shared beliefs are the foundation for political parties, religious groups, family bonds, sports fan bases, national loyalty, friendships, and any other cohesively committed group. We feel safe around people who agree with our thinking. Ideas that are inconsistent with our group belief makes us feel threatened. We trust people who tell us what we believe.

Confirmation bias can easily block critical thinking.

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Book Excerpt: Best Jobs. Brightest Careers.

Updating Your Career Strategy

The Benefits of Updating Your Career Strategy: A great career plan is an opportunity map. Your strategy must be flexible. With an updated plan, you will discover new roads for opportunities to succeed. Moreover, students and professionals who have developed and follow their own career plan have a greater likelihood of success, simply because they know which steps to take for success.

Great career plans not only define where you want to go. The plan helps you identify the tools, skills, and network you need to get there. ~ www.jaywren.com

Psychological Benefits of a Career Plan

A Career Plan Gives You a Sense of Purpose. 

Have you ever found yourself in a meeting, working on a project, or in any situation where the question came to mind, “What am I doing here?” or “Why am I doing this?”

Have you noticed that associated with those questions is an unpleasant feeling that you are wasting your time? You have no sense of purpose for your activities.

Going to work every day with a sense of purpose is a lot more fun than going to work every day and wondering why you are doing what you are doing.

Also, it seems logical that going to work every day with a sense of purpose increases your likelihood of being more successful.

1. Your interest in your work will increase.
2. You will be focused on your work.
3. Spontaneously, you will be more willing to invest energy and time in your work.

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Our beliefs become hardwired in our minds. They control our thinking and our feelings about what other people say and do. Sometimes friendships fall apart because people develop new beliefs. Other times, people who have been friends realize over time that some of their beliefs have never been the same on some issues. However, if they focus on the things they have in common, they can continue to have a strong relationship.

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Do we have choices over the way that we feel and think? I believe that we do. Of course, I know that my day can change with the events that I experience. But what about the things that I choose to put in my mind? I can choose things that change how I respond mentally and emotionally to my experiences. If I want to have a better day, I can make better choices about the things I read, the people I talk to, and the media that I select.  

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