Category: Emotional Intelligence

The Power of Emotional Autonomy

The power of emotional autonomy: Never give anyone the power to control how you feel or what you think. ~ Jay Wren

Emotional autonomy is a vital aspect of personal development and well-being. It refers to the ability to maintain control over one’s own emotional state, rather than allowing external circumstances or the actions of others to dictate how one feels and thinks. This concept is not just about resilience or independence; it’s about recognizing that we have the power to choose our responses to the challenges life throws at us.

The journey towards emotional autonomy involves several key steps. Firstly, it requires self-awareness. Understanding our emotions and the triggers that affect them allows us to manage our reactions more effectively. Secondly, it involves setting boundaries. By defining what is acceptable and what is not in our interactions with others, we protect our emotional space.

Another crucial element is the development of coping strategies. Whether it’s through mindfulness, therapy, or simply taking time for oneself, finding ways to deal with stress and negative emotions is essential. Additionally, fostering a strong support network can provide the encouragement and perspective needed when facing difficult situations.

Ultimately, emotional autonomy is about empowerment. It’s about realizing that while we cannot control everything that happens to us, we can control our reactions. It’s a liberating understanding that can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

As we navigate the complexities of relationships, work, and personal aspirations, remembering the mantra “Never give anyone the power to control how you feel and what you think” can serve as a guiding principle. It reminds us that our emotional well-being is in our hands, and with the right tools and mindset, we can face life’s ups and downs with confidence and poise.

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What Steps can I Take Today to Make Things Better?

Horrible things happen to all of us, things beyond our control. But developing winning traits can change the questions we ask when we meet challenges. We stop asking, “Why me?” Instead, we ask, “What steps can I take today to make things better?” ~ www.jaywren.com

 

 

 

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Don’t Worry About What Other People Think

“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt

I don’t worry about what other people think. I can’t control what people carry around in their minds. The mental obsession over what other people think doesn’t improve how people see me. Additionally, I can think about better things, the good things in my life and solutions for making my life better.

Create a New Day

“Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful day of your life.” Mark Twain

I decide every day what kind of day I am going to have. I can either dread it or stay in the present movement and only think about things as they happen.

Depending on what was going on the day before and what I expect to happen today, I may get out of bed feeling frustrated, grateful, full of great expectation, or not aware of my feelings at all.

My instinct is to grab a cup of coffee and sit down at my desk and dive into my work. This is not a good routine. If I want to love my day, I need to clear my head and decide that I am going to be happy and grateful. Making a gratitude list is a good place to start to brighten my day.

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Blessings

It is your responsibility to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself before they become fixed in your mind as beliefs. Smile. Say something nice about yourself. Make a list of your blessings.

Smile

There are many things that you can do to calm your jitters.  Perhaps the most overlooked way is simply to smile.  People smile when they are happy.  And equally important is that smiling can help you feel happy.  “Fake ’till you make it” is an ambiguous term.  Some people see it as a disingenuous way of faking your skills.  Another view is that faking confidence can help you gain confidence. A smile triggers thoughts that generate happiness.
The smiley face emoji says to other people you approve of what they have to say.  Smiling has a similar effect.  It tells people you approve of them.  It creates trust and helps people open up to you.

You are generating charisma.  People find your presence attractive.  Your smiling helps people feel more confident and comfortable being around you.  In turn, they smile and you feel confident from their signal of approval.

A frown will chase away friends.  Ah, but there is something about a smile that attracts people and draws people to you.

So, let it go.  When you see people, start with a smile.  As people approach, nod and smile.  When you are shaking hands with people, look at them and smile.

Social Anxiety: Is It Killing Your Career?

“Don’t let the world change your smile.  Let your smile change the world.”  A Work in Progress by Connor Franta

Social anxiety is common.  People who are shy are not the only people who experience social anxiety.  People who are confident about what they say or do around friends and family may feel social anxiety when they are among strangers or in front of an audience.

Social anxiety can make you avoid opportunities for work, fun, and networking.  It can cut your opportunities for leadership roles.  Your anxiety can generate signals that make it harder for people to reach out to you.

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