Anger Management: People who cannot control their tempers can ruin their career and the career of others. How do some people manage anger to create success for themselves and their organization?
Anger protects us against danger. However, acting out of anger clutters our thinking and undermines our success.
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Four Steps to Anger Management
Here are four areas of anger management that can help you be more successful in building great relationships in stressful situations.
Pause Before Acting
When you first feel anger, pause and wait for your emotions to become less intense. If possible, step away to process your emotions.
Avoid saying things when you are angry. Rational thinking can evaporate when our feelings hijack our reasoning.
Certainly, don’t say things or send angry letters or emails that you may regret later.
Seek Mentoring
A mentor might be anyone who can help you work through your feelings and take constructive actions.
Discussing our feelings with a person who is not involved can help us process our anger. Furthermore, just writing about our feelings can help remove the sting of our experience. Once we have those feelings on paper, we can use our notes for our discussion with our mentor.
Let Go of Unproductive Emotions
If people have offended us, we feel sore. A common response is to hold onto our anger. Resentments are dangerous. They can damage our health and our relationships. When we feel angry for past wrongs, focusing on our breathing can help us get out of our head and into the present moment.
Set Boundaries
Negative, angry people cause us stress and damage our performance. They create anger in the people around them.
It is not always easy to avoid negative people. Likewise, changing the behavior of other people is difficult. However, speaking out to set boundaries on behavior that you will not tolerant is often all that we need to do. Where possible, seek alliances with other people to help protect your boundaries. Report abusive behavior.
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